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The Homeschool Lifestyle: Family

The Homeschooling Lifestyle – The Family

Once you have a solid foundation and walls are erected, you pretty much have a dwelling in which to house your family. It may be absent of frills, but it can keep you safe and out of the elements.

Inside the walls of your home live the most important people in your life – your family.

Family is a great place to begin to learn that people are different based on factors like personality, giftings, outside influences, biological make-up, etc. It is also the perfect place to learn and practice how to interact with the world around you.

Your family gets the best and the worst of you. You and they are permanently bound to one another, even on the days you aren’t sure if you want to be bound to them.

Our family contributes to the shaping of who we are in our growing up years, and in our adulthood. The experiences we are involved in in childhood show up in positive or negative ways in the future. Ultimately, what we do with these experiences is up to us. In the meantime, we can choose to embrace the time we have together in our homeschool as a time to love each other, to learn about and from each other, and to interact with those we love, yet don’t always see eye to eye.

In your home exists not only your marriage relationship, but also the parent-child relationship, and the sibling relationship. The homeschooling lifestyle offers a chance for these relationships to be very close, very loving, and highly enjoyable. Being around each other 24/7 can also mean disagreements and the need for time apart; this is ok, it’s healthy, and it can be handled in a Godly manner.

When it comes to the parent-child relationship, the Bible tells us, in Psalm 127:3, that “Children are a gift from the Lord; they are a reward from Him.”  Parents are instructed to “Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old, he will not depart from it.” (Proverbs 22:6). We further read that, “All your children shall be taught by the Lord, and shall be the peace of your children.” (Isaiah 54:13), and “Children obey your parents, because you belong to the Lord, for this is the right thing to do. This is the first commandment with a promise: if you honor your father and mother, ‘things will go well for you, and you will have a long life on the earth.” (Ephesians 6:1-3)

Additionally, children are told to, “Hear, my son, your father’s instruction, and forsake not your mother’s teaching, for they are a graceful garland for your head and pendants for your neck.” (Proverbs 1:8-9), and parents are instructed to, “not provoke your children to anger by the way you treat them.Rather bring them up with the discipline and instruction that comes from the Lord.” (Ephesians 6:4).

The parent-child relationship and bond is to be rooted in Christ, just like everything else in our lives. 

Can you have a relationship with your kids that is rooted in Christ if you send your kids to school? Yes, however, you will be battling a system that wishes to take God out of the equation of life, and choosing to refute Him on every level. Most schools are working to kick God out and their pride tells them it is their job to “prove” God is not real. While exposure to the world and their beliefs is important and vital so we know who and what we are witnessing to, it does not need to happen at times when your child is not at a maturity level to process what it being taught to them, nor is it something we should allow the majority of our day to be exposed to. 

A parent-child relationship rooted in Christ can happen despite what the world pressures us to do, yet over-exposure to the world can make our goals more difficult to achieve. And sometimes can even cause us to go backwards instead of forward in our walk with Christ. We should never isolate ourselves from the world, and at the same time, should not immerse ourselves in the world. 

When you hold to a Biblical parent-child relationship in your home, you are exposing your children to an example of what respectful leadership and respectful honor of authority looks like. The parents lead their home in an honorable way that provides love, security, honor, and respect to their children as human beings, and the children learn that honorable authority can be trusted to be followed in an honorable and respectful manner; even when you don’t understand or agree with the leader’s decision. 

A healthy parent-child relationship is one in which a “chain of command” is established, expectations are set and communicated, conversations happen, correction is done with preservation of the relationship in mind, and all involved see home and family as their safe place to land; a place with people they can count on when life goes sideways, and people they know will celebrate wins large and small with them. They can count on this when they and their family are rooted in Christ.

Sibling relationships are interesting, to say the least. I’m not sure how it happens, but somehow the same two people can create children, and still each child comes out different than the others. If you have more than one child, you know exactly what I mean, and an even deeper understanding if you have 3 or more children.

Siblings can be best friends one minute, and argue with each other the next. Some siblings naturally partner together, while other pairings have to be encouraged. All in all, sibling relationships are excellent practice grounds for life with people out in the world. 

The similarities that bring two siblings together prepares them for close friendships; the differences siblings have with each other, and the handling of these differences, prepares them for interactions with co-workers they may not see eye to eye with, how to interact with in-laws that have differing ideas on family expectations, and those that may not have the same viewpoint on the world’s issues.

None of us is perfect. We have our good moments and our not-so-good moments. Siblings may fight, but if an atmosphere of love and grace is created in the home, differences can be worked out, compromise can be made, and a comfortableness with agreeing to disagree on flexible topics can be learned. Sibling relationships are a blessing in one’s life in so many ways!

What atmosphere do you choose to foster in your home? What values do you and your husband choose to impart to your children? What life lessons do you have the opportunity to teach in the safety of your home? 

When you make homeschooling a lifestyle, you create a space for these life lessons to happen.


Pam Spinker

I help Christian homeschool moms, just like you, thrive in your home and in your walk with Christ. If you question your abilities, or feel like you’re drowning in homeschooling, you’re in the right place! 

I’m here to help!