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Confessions of a Homeschool Mom

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Confessions of a homeschool mom

I don’t know about you, but I can fall into the trap of comparing myself and my homeschool to other Moms around me, and those I see on Facebook.

Why do we torture ourselves with this?!

Why do we feel the need to show polished images of our family life on social media and during in-person conversations with others?

Is it pride?

Is it shame?

Maybe a feeling of insecurity or inadequacy that we are compensating for?

Whatever the reason, I feel much more relaxed and “normal” when other Moms are real with me.

So, I’m going to be real with you, always…or at least most of the time, I am human too, ya know 😉

These are my top 10 confessions as a homeschool mom.

I’m going to break them down into 6 different posts, so check out the other confessions too!

#1 This was not the plan

Some couples plan on homeschooling their kids even before they get pregnant. This is not the case for my husband and I. We met 6 months after graduating high school, married 2 years later, and were happy with the one son I brought into the marriage with me. Yes, I had a child right out of high school, 2 months before meeting my husband – he’s a special man 😊

We were in the middle of college and trade school, working, having fun with friends, and raising our son.

Since I was in college completing my bachelor’s in education degree, and wanted to be a classroom teacher since I was 5 years old, the plan was always to put our son in school. That’s just what we did.

When he was in 3rd grade, I began noticing that he needed a little more help when it came to reading comprehension. Reading is a baseline for all the other subjects, so when he was having some struggles in this area, it effected almost everything else he was doing at school. His teachers were wonderful and they did what they could to help, but, especially since I knew what it was like to be in a classroom, I knew their ability to help was limited, as they had other students to educate as well.

I became pregnant with our second child after graduating college and returning to work at the preschool I had worked at through school, and was in the process of applying to local public schools in our area.

I had glowing reviews and recommendations from school principals, other teachers I worked with, my current employer, and my college course teachers. I should have been able to land any job I wanted. Principals who interviewed me wanted me to work for them, but something always came up and I did not get the job.

It was a bit disheartening, but I knew I was fresh out of college and the preschool I worked for was grooming me to be a future director of one of their new locations, so I kept plugging along doing my thing and taking our son to school.

About 7 months into the pregnancy, I turned to my husband one day as we were riding in the car and said, “I want to homeschool our kids.” He said, “Ok, let’s do it!” And we haven’t looked back since.

Homeschool was not the plan. It wasn’t even a thought in our minds.

What happened?

God happened!

He placed the calling on my heart to homeschool, and He placed it on my husband’s heart to say yes without any hesitation. That’s the only way to explain the sudden change of paths for our son’s and future children’s education.

I’m so glad we listened!

If you are feeling the call to homeschool, it’s time to answer!

This may not have been your plan, and you have a million questions. That’s ok! You have a community of homeschool moms, myself included, here with answers, suggestions, and guidance. And, you’ll figure things out along the way, as you get to know the flow of your home.

Hang in there, Momma! You’re doing great!


Pam Spinker

I help Christian homeschool moms, just like you, thrive in your home and in your walk with Christ. If you question your abilities, or feel like you’re drowning in homeschooling, you’re in the right place! 

I’m here to help!