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Choose What’s Better

Mom and kids under blanket reading

This morning I planned on my usual Mom-time routine, followed by taking care of a couple items on my to-do list before getting ready for and attending an afternoon meeting.

Things did NOT go as planned.

Two of our kids got into a screaming match over a book series they were reading with another sibling. A silly thing to argue over, from the perspective of an outsider looking in.

However, as a Mom who knows her kids well, I knew there was a much deeper root here.

We spent the next hour discussing what was really going on. Why this issue upset the two involved. Why something so seemingly insignificant was such a big deal to them.

We talked. I prayed for softened hearts. We came to an agreement – not about the book, about the feelings and behaviors surrounding the feelings.

This is part of what it means to make homeschooling your lifestyle.

This is why I remind you, and remind myself consistently, that you and I are Mom first. We are a family first. The academics fill in around being a family.

I share this also to remind you that your homeschool day is not always going to go as planned – even if an emotional outburst isn’t happening.

Some days you just might go off on a delightful tangent because something in the History lesson piqued curiosity. 

Some days the weather is just too gorgeous to miss the opportunity for a park day and picnic lunch.

Some days call for snuggling on the couch and reading or watching a movie.

And some days you will be super focused on the academics and get a lot done in a day’s time.

It’s all good. It’s all educational. It’s all what it means to be a part of a family – a family who chooses to be connected and love one another.

Homeschooling isn’t just about Math, Science, and Reading. It’s about the whole person – spirit, mind, and body.

If we sacrifice time to be involved with the person, for time in a textbook, we’ve missed what’s most important. We’ve missed the point of family. We’ve missed the point of homeschooling.

Be ok with your day not going as planned. Figure things out along the way. Choose what is better.

“but few things are needed—or indeed only one. Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken away from her.” – Luke 10:42

Cheering you on,



Pam Spinker

I help Christian homeschool moms, just like you, thrive in your home and in your walk with Christ. If you question your abilities, or feel like you’re drowning in homeschooling, you’re in the right place! 

I’m here to help!